Because of our boarding situation, students are together twenty-four hours a day for seven days each week. This produces an artificial environment in which students tend to form romantic relationships that develop too quickly and become too serious. Our purpose in adopting a social policy is to allow boys and girls to interact in normal ways while preventing immoral behavior and serious dating relationships. We want a social policy that encourages boys and girls to form natural relationships with a large number of their peers.
Our social policy follows these guidelines:
- Boys and girls are allowed to talk and interact with one another during school hours (7:55am – 3:00pm) and during organized social events that have adult chaperones. Outside of school hours students are to stay on their own side of the campus.
- Boys and girls are to interact as part of a larger group. The term “group” refers primarily to the type of interaction, rather than to the number of people present. In a group, each person is interacting with every other person in the group. Deliberately arranging to meet privately with a member of the opposite sex is considered a very serious offense and may result in expulsion.
- Boys and girls are to interact with each other in public settings. A boy and a girl are not to separate themselves from the group by moving off to a private corner of the room. Mixed groups of students are to stay with the chaperone at organized social events. They are not to separate themselves, even though they are in a group.
- Boys and girls are to interact with a variety of students rather than always interacting with the same group.
- Interaction between one boy and one girl is permissible as long as it occurs naturally as part of a larger activity or routine. For example, a boy and a girl may talk together while moving between classes or while waiting for class to begin. There may be times during a group activity during which one boy and one girl are talking together. These interactions are permissible as long as they are brief (less than five minutes) and are not planned in advance.
- Physical contact is not allowed between boys and girls. This includes all forms of contact, not just those occurring as a romantic gesture. Physical contact is allowed as part of a classroom assignment or other supervised activity, at the discretion of the adult chaperone.
- Boys and girls are not to make disrespectful, vulgar, or other inappropriate comments about the opposite sex.